Story Behind The Song

I was frustrated with the back and forth over who should clean, what and when. I wrote this piece in the first year my then boyfriend, now husband, and I shared a small apartment with a 1 year old baby. Simply put, we had two different ways of looking at chores and only when we understood that were we able to find middle ground...but it took us a while!

Song Description

A poem about an insignificant disagreement within the first year of co-habitation. We had a good laugh at it afterwards. If the first year is the hardest and the biggest problem we had was disagreeing over a cleaning schedule then we would be just fine together. ?On the album, this track is set to a Bashment Soca Riddim, paying homage to my home country Barbados and the amazing young creatives there. ?

Lyrics

Damned if I do, Damned if I don't
Damned if I will, Damned if I won't
Cook, clean, mind child, be pretty
Stand up for myself, then I look petty
Forgive your sins big and small
My tiny habits you list them all
Focus on the small points stealing joy
Carrying emotions like the Horse of Troy
Put you in my shoes and you can't walk
Put you in my head and you can't talk
Promised to be a partner at my side
But when trials come, can you stand the tide?
If a mess so small sends you running,
What will happen when life starts gunning?
When I try and I do, you don't see
But should I slip up you point fingers at me
I don't leave the house to report to work
But my duties at home I do not shirk
Drained and tired at the end of the day
No damn appreciation in any way
Complain bout the few things left undone
Overlooking the many victories I've won

Why try?
Because my development alone I own
Building up myself stone by stone
Where I lack, my efforts must be true
Learning from mistakes, my blessings accrue
Not changing at all that I can not do
Just be careful Buddy I don't outgrow you
Your age a hindrance, my youth an asset
Our team should win on every facet
If the small foxes spoil the vine
Then the tiny mouses poison the wine
My part and parcel I will perfect
But your attitude I cannot affect
They say it takes two hands to clap
But with offence only one to slap
We must choose each and every passing day
To be better together in every way
Understanding and respect we both want
Decisions from the past still live and haunt
Overcoming them all our lives will need
Happiness and dreams always to feed
We try because we are humans still
With love and forgiveness, win we will.