Story Behind The Song

A play on the 'It's not you, it's me' expression but with the reverse. It really IS her and he's come to realise that.

Lyrics

I used to shrink when you walked in the room,
Holding my breath, waiting for the boom.
You'd twist my words till I couldn't speak,
Made me feel small, made me feel weak.
I blamed myself for every little thing,
Thought I was broken, thought I was sinking.
But now I see the truth coming through --
The problem was never me, it was you.

You'd roll your eyes when I tried to explain,
Turn my worries into some kind of game.
I carried guilt like a second skin,
Thinking every fight was something I caused again.
But I've been learning how to read the signs,
And all the cracks lead back to your design.
I'm done pretending your storms are my fault,
I'm walking out of your thunderbolt.

(Chorus)
'Cause it's not me, it's you --
I finally see what's true.
All the tears I cried, all the nights I tried
To be someone you'd approve.
It's not me, it's you --
I'm done with feeling bruised.
I'm taking back my heart, my voice, my spark,
I'm breaking out of your rules.

I used to think I wasn't enough,
But you just needed someone to crush.
You dimmed my light so yours could shine,
But I'm reclaiming what was always mine.
I'm standing taller than I ever did,
No more hiding like a scared little kid.
Your shadow's fading as I step through --
I'm finally choosing me over you.

(Bridge)
Maybe someday you'll face the mirror
And see the truth a little clearer.
But I can't fix what you won't face,
I'm done living in that shrinking space.
I'm stronger now, and I won't go back --
I'm walking forward, never off track.

(Chorus)
'Cause it's not me, it's you --
I finally see what's true.
All the tears I cried, all the nights I tried
To be someone you'd approve.
It's not me, it's you --
I'm done with feeling bruised.
I'm taking back my heart, my voice, my spark,
I'm breaking out of your rules.

So now it's goodbye to the weight I carried,
To the fear, the doubt, the dreams I buried.
I'm stepping out into something new,
A life that's brighter without you.
I'm healing now, and it feels brand new --
'Cause it's not me... it's you.